Before I retired (retirement is GREAT for general info!) I was with WDG for 37 years, with offices in both Dallas and Washington, DC. During that time, we did projects all over Texas and up and down the east coast as well as far afield as Ohio and Michigan. In many cases we worked with local structural engineers. I had a master system that I had developed over time, totally coordinated with all sections for terminology and drawing notes terminology. This included structural sections of all types and including specialty sections such as various structural glazing systems.
What I would do would be to send those section masters to the structural engineer, and tell him that he should edit them as required, including verifying any standards, and making any additions that he required, just to send me text inserts to include. Never had a problem with that, and would make all their changes, though often putting information in the more appropriate parts and articles than they selected, sending them back to him for review and notes about why I might have it in a different location.
I would then look up any of their references to assure they were correct (sometimes resulting in asking him to check again since I found conflicting or even discontinued standards/references).
All of these inclusions, I would then keep in my master sections, along with notes about choosing different options (based on the different engineers desiring different options).
After the review came back again, a full draft would be issued at about 75% drawing completion that they would then get to review and comment on.
This all went very well. And the only times of having to do more work that usual was the first time with an engineer. After that, smooth sailing.
Did the same with other disciplines like Landscape, Interiors, etc.
The only sections we did not do this way was MEP. And those we let them use their own masters, but they were very closely review and marked up for coordination with appropriate section names/numbers, as well as terminology.
Some may say this takes a lot of time. Yes, and no. It really depends on your working tools. I did not have a highly automated system, just a word processing on a computer. For the majority of my career, I had no assistant.
On the other hand, perhaps success was based on my sport of choice, fencing. Nothing like after a trying or stressful day to go to the club and beat on someone with a metal rod -grin!!